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the art of meaningful conversations: how to have deeper connections
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the art of meaningful conversations: how to have deeper connections

A longitudinal Harvard study found that your relationships are the biggest predictor of a long and happy life -- more so than social class, IQ and even genetics. Here's how to nurture them.

Fun fact: this was the 1st podcast episode I ever recorded!!! Canon event!!

The seminal Harvard study on Adult Development found that close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives. Those ties protect people from life’s curveballs, help to delay mental and physical decline, and are better predictors of long and happy lives than social class, IQ, or even genes, the study found. Our relationships have a powerful influence on our health – so how do we enrich our relationships? Partly through deeper conversation.

TIMESTAMPS

00:36: pro-tip – go to networking events where you know NOBODY

01:26: why you should care about deeper conversations & connections w ppl 

02:11: staunch advocate of talking to strangers in this house

02:42: serendipitous meetings with strangers

02:51: the story of the beautiful stranger i met under the eiffel tower in paris

06:35: second story of a beautiful stranger i met during the sunset in port melbourne

07:42: meeting god through strangers

08:14: the mindset that there’s ALWAYS something you can learn from someone

09:26: when you reduce the multiplicity of a person into a series of labels, that’s a disservice to both you and them

09:37: nobody is ever above or beneath you + some absurdism

10:36: if you want to be interesting, be interested 

10:54: my favourite questions to ask ppl

11:53: go first – smile first, compliment first, be vulnerable first

13:18: approach conversations with the mindset of “how can i help this person?”

13:55: on conversational card games like we’re not really strangers

Recommended reading: longitudinal Harvard study, which began in 1938 and studied people over the course of their lifespan to investigate what drives happiness: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/

Cover art: “The Dance” by Henri Matisse

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